Boy Bedlam

There's this idea floating around that women are emotional landmines, that we are "silly", irrational, and have a tendency to overreact. This idea is not only supported by men, but also by women observing other women behaving in less than presentable ways. I'm not saying that some women don't behave insensibly for no reason other than the fact that they're unstable, but in the vast majority of cases that I know of there's a common denominator: a man. Men have this uncanny ability to behave in ways so dumbfounding, selfish, and completely illogical that it drives even the sanest of women to the brink of a mental collapse. How do they do this? Emotional exploitation. I'm not sure whether or not there is a secret society where men learn how to mistreat women or if it's something they pick up from their fathers, but the truth is this: if a guy has some "crazy" girl "stalking" him, in most cases he'll have created this situation himself, by making her fall in love with him, used her for a while, and then dumped her without any explanation. Imagine this: you spend several days a week with someone for an extended period of time, you have meals together, watch movies, cuddle, talk, have sex, sleep in the same bed etc. You think everything is wonderful. He's wonderful! Suddenly, and seemingly out of the blue, he decides this wasn't "it", and leaves you wondering what just happened. You try to get answers from him but he won't talk to you, or he just says random things that make no actual sense, and completely contradict the fact that 3 days ago he was in your bed next to you and everything seemed fine, and now he acts like he doesn't want to know you. You still care, you're still invested, and you want (and deserve) answers, so you text him and call him, hoping for some explanation. This is when his phone buzzes around other people, and you become this "chick" who's "obsessed" with him, and just won't leave him alone. Other girls think you're behaving pathetically, and other guys start sending you the Overly Attached Girlfriend meme on facebook. To the outside world your behaviour seems psychotic and unreasonable, but what's actually happening is a confused, hurt, used girl who just wants to know how someone can create an entire existence with her, and then just disappear, seemingly without any regret at all. Don't flatter yourself, John Doe: she's not crazy because of you; rather she's crazy because of what you did: you left her questioning everything. She doesn't know if anything she believed was real (and if it wasn't she has do deal with the fact that the person she devoted herself to has been lying to her face), she doesn't know what went wrong, and she doesn't know if she was stupid ever to have believed that anyone would love her. Knowing that you'll never get the answers that you want is enough to drive anyone "crazy" for a while, but she'll get over it, she'll get over you, and when she does people will realize she wasn't "crazy" at all; she was just hurt and trying to deal with it.