The Problem With Being a MILF

You've all probably seen it: some girl on your friends list happens to have a baby and still look good, and to every single nice photo she posts, the "MILF" (Mother I'd Like to Fuck) comments appear never ending. Now, I'm sure a lot of the time, the comments are all in good fun, but I can't help feeling a bit queasy because of them. First of all let this picture explain one thing:

Sorry, I'm not sorry

Second of all, why is this something we consider a compliment? In 2014, have women not moved beyond the ultimate compliment being that we're fuckable? You gave life! You birthed a baby, and now you're raising this little wonder into what will hopefully be a human being that you can be proud of, which is something that takes a lot of hard work and dedication. All that, and the greatest mom related compliment someone can give you, is that you're a mom they'd like to fuck? Considering this, please ask yourselves: is it really strange that a lot of men don't respect women? I'm a woman, and I most certainly have much less respect for women like that, than for women who demand respect for their abilities, intelligence, and achievements. If objectifying yourself is all you have, you don't have anything. It's not empowering, it's not liberating, and you're not being "independent" or "strong". Owning your sexuality as a woman is empowering and you should never be ashamed of it, but self objectification is not owning your sexuality; it's handing it over to others for them to do with as they please.

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Stop Judging People With Expensive Things

"You could feed an entire village in a third world country for a year with the cost of that coat". I just read this comment on a photo of a celebrity in a Burberry coat. Is that true? Maybe. Burberry coats cost a lot of money. The issue with this argument, however, is that using it means you have to give up any and all luxuries yourself. That means even giving up that "expensive" milk you prefer over the others. "Yeah but that's only 30p more". Still, it adds up, and by the end of the year, it will have accumulated enough that you could probably feed a family in a third world country weeks. "But you've got to be able to have SOME luxuries". Yes, and rich people can simply afford more expensive luxuries. Assuming that you're a regular, middle class citizen, you probably have money to give as well. Why don't you donate? Perhaps you do, but who says the celebrity in question doesn't? Why do people expect rich people to donate money, as if it's some sort of requirement of them. Rich people are no more obligated to donate money to charitable causes than "regular" people, neither should they feel they are. In a perfect world we'd all give a lot more than we do, but unless you give regularly yourself, don't bark at others for not doing it, even if they have more to give than you. To put things into perspective here are 5 things we all can stop doing and give the money to starving families in third world countries instead.

5. Stop partying

Let's face it, getting drunk is expensive, and the amount of money you blow on a night out can be ridiculous. Stop partying, and just give that money to something charitable instead.

You really don't think that money would be better spent on starving children?

4. Stop eating out

Lunch with the girls? No way! BBQ with the guys? Forget it! Stop treating food as a luxury, and only eat what is absolutely essential to your survival. Going out for lunch, dinner, or any other meal, is just a way of spending too much money on food. Money, that would be better spent on starving families in third world countries.

All I see is a waste of money! How about donating that money to charity instead?

3. Stop using any products beyond what is required for basic hygiene

That means no make up, no hair products beyond cheap shampoo, no perfume, no nail polish, no coconut body butter. Nothing. All the money we spend on these products would be much better served if it was donated to charity.

Who even wants to wear makeup anyway? Not me!.... not me.....

2. Stop buying clothes in general

Do you know how much the people that make our clothing earn pr. hour? LITTLE, that's how much! Buy fabric from a trusted source and make your own clothing instead. Not only does it save you money, but you acquire a new skill as well! If we all donated the money we would have spent on clothes to the people that make them, they'd live much better lives!

.. you'll get the hang of it.

And the ultimate thing you can do is...

1. Get a job as a relief worker

Yes, you heard me! Quit your job, change your life, and move to a third world country and be a relief worker. Then you can judge me and everyone else from the comfort of your own tent.

"All they need.. is a nice white lady."

Do charitable causes deserve our money and attention? Yes! Very much so! Do they deserve them moreso than an expensive jacket? Also yes! The problem is, that these causes deserve our money more than almost everything we spend money on, so if we're going to attack someone for buying an expensive coat, we all have to completely rethink how we live our lives in their entirety. We do not live in third world countries. We can afford certain luxuries, and there is no reason that we shouldn't enjoy them. We just need to remember that it is a privilege, and never forget to not only be thankful, but also to give back. Besides, that coat or that steak dinner are not necessarily the issue. For example, some would argue that this money could have been much better spent. It would certainly feed that poor third world country village for more than a year.

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Being Rich, Famous and.. Religious?

I have always been amused by the notion of highly religious people, who simultaneously are very rich and/or very famous. We read about celebrities and how they follow a certain religion, and a lot of the time I'm surprised (and then amused) by the very notion of it. Why? Because of how they live their lives! The rich and famous live and breathe in a world of money, plastic surgery, and image control moreso than anyone else, and the idea that the faked boobed, lip injected, botox-smooth skinned, singer/actress who lives in a 17 bedroom mansion in Malibu is in fact ALSO a Buddhist leaves me feeling.. bemused. Am I saying that because you subscribe to Buddhism, you should give away everything you have at once? No. But what do you really need 17.5 million dollars for, Jennifer Lopez? That's what she got for returning to American Idol. I understand - as a celebrity you really do need to spend more in order to just be safe; there are some sick people in the world just gagging for a sniff into your underwear drawer. I am not familiar with the exact costs of this, but she has so much else going on besides American Idol (her fragrance line that sells more than any other celebrity fragrance, for example), I'm pretty sure she doesn't need one cent of that salary. Therefore, Jennifer, I propose, in the name of Buddhism and not feeling attachment to material things (money is neutral, but demanding so much of it shows attachment which is exactly what you want to get rid of) that you donate your entire American Idol salary to various charities and funding for research into serious illnesses.

"Hi, my name is Jennifer. I'm a Buddhist."

Even more funny that the wealthy Buddhists are the wealthy Christians. First of all because there are so many of them which really opens up the door for ridicule - lots more to choose from! Second of all because many of them are politicians and who doesn't love hating on those? I'm sure there are Buddhist politicians in the West as well, but they don't usually feel the need to talk about it as much as the Christian politicians do (shut up about it, please!). Anyway, instead of me rambling, here's a little of what the Bible says about wealth:

Matthew 6:19 - 21
19 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, 20 but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Matthew 6:24
“No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money. 


Luke 12:15
And he said to them, “Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.”

Luke 12:32 - 34 

32 “Fear not, little flock, for it is your Father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom. 33 Sell your possessions, and give to the needy. Provide yourselves with moneybags that do not grow old, with a treasure in the heavens that does not fail, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys. 34 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Luke 16:13
No servant can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.” (I know this is a repeat of the first one, but I really like the message.)

*BONUS SCRIPTURE SPECIFICALLY FOR POLITICIANS*:

Philippians 2:3 - 4
3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility regard others as better than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not to your own interests, but to the interests of others.


I could write all sorts of comments (and usually I would), but the Bible has spoken for me.

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Reasons We Love Kellan Lutz

What do we get if we take Liam Hemsworth and add Chris Hemsworth? That's right: Kellan Lutz! Kellan must be the most attractive man on the planet! The hottest Hollywood hunk since a young Brad Pitt. Everything about him is drool worthy, from top to bottom (and a very conspicuous stop somewhere around the lower middle), but it's not just his looks that make him so appealing. Far from it, I would argue that because of his warm, caring personality, he has propelled himself into a stratosphere of desirability other hunky men can only dream of reaching. He has effectively made sure that the average hunk looks less Jon Hamm, more Jon Voight when he's in the room. So what exactly is it that makes Kellan Lutz so dreamy? Read on to find out!

His face.. or well just his entire head in general.

Those eyes!

I was going to write something clever, but.. *sighs*

Those lips..

Pretty sure when he talks to girls, this is all we ever hear. "But there is no sound", you're thinking. Exactly.

..how pouty they get when he uses them 

I hear sound effects in my head when I watch this. A voice moaning. A voice eerily similar to mine. Wait, that wasn't in my head.

The perfect manly facial hair.. 

"Nah babe, I just woke up."
"Uh, yeah, me too!" *checks if false lashes are appropriately placed*

..and the angelic facial shape it enhances:

Did you say you were a straight man/lesbian? Are you really sure of that?

OK, so in case it isn't obvious thus far, the case I am making is that Kellan's face is flawless. I felt it would be better illustrated by just posting pictures first, so you can realize that even if you thought you knew how insanely gorgeous he is, you had no idea. If you're a regular reader of my blog (in which case "thank you, you're awesome" is in order), you will know that I have a huge crush on the brothers Hemsworth. I think they are insanely gorgeous, but they each have something that the other lacks, which makes it hard to decide who's the hotter brother. Kellan, however, lacks nothing. He has it all, and he is light years ahead of the Hemsworths because of it. He's got the sexy look in his eyes, but they are also kind and loving. He's got that boyish grin, that's sexy, inviting, and warm. He's got the lips of an angel, and a facial structure that looks like it's been cut by angels. And his face is only the beginning! Let's move further south..

Upper body (he's not Hercules for nothing!)

There are men with nice bodies, and then there are men with bodies extraordinary enough to play demigods in movies. Guess which one Kellan is? Hint:

I hope they show this movie in HD at the cinema.. and that they have private booths.

Need another?

You don't see chests like these anymore!

Doesn't he just look.. strong? I can't wait to see the movie "The Legend of Hercules"! He could be carrying a mountain and I'd look at his physique and think "yeah, seems legit!" His upper body isn't the only "big" part of him however..

His lower body wants in as well

..and who are we to refuse?

When you see it, you will shit bricks.

Holy. Shit. In case you're extraordinarily slow, here's a close up:

Shitting bricks now?

I repeat: Holy. Shit. I've been staring at this for 10 minutes now trying to think of something clever to say. I just can't. It's holy. There will be no jokes. Only love and respect.. and awe. Oh, and lucid dreaming. Need to learn that right about now.

You may be thinking "that's photoshopped!". Well..

This is backstage photos, not official photos, and I must say he's looking very.. full.

Still sceptical? You're probably a man, then.

But it's not just his intense, perfect beyond perfection, godlike, carved by angels appearance that makes him so appealing. There are many other things, like..

He does charity work

Like visits sick children

Fights for animal rights

Helps rebuild damaged homes

And supports a charity called "Unlikely Heroes" that combats child sex trafficking

These are the things that make me respect him as a human being, and quite frankly have left me with a bad taste in my mouth over the physical parts of this blog post. Yes, he is beautiful, but here's this wonderful, intelligent, warm, and caring guy, who spends his free time helping others, and all we can talk about is his appearance. It is rare for objectification to reach these levels for men, but for women it's not. There are plenty of women out there who are the equivalent of Kellan in appearance (OK, so not plenty, but some.. like a 2004'ish Angelina Jolie, for example), and who are judged solely based on their appearance. When they try to do good, it is only "to save face" in the eyes of the public, because we all know they're too busy feuding with other famous women, or being sluts and home wreckers. When a man does it, we blindly accept it for what it is - charity work. Volunteer work. Work they choose to do to help others. How many people are still saying Angelina Jolie's work with refugees is just to "better her image"? I realize the way to combat female objectification is not to objectify men, and I'm sorry Kellan (in the unlikely even that you'll ever see this) that you were the subject chosen for this, but I just wanted to portray the creepily thorough analysis women are put through on a man. There is one difference though: if this was a man looking at a woman, instead of a woman looking at a man, there would probably be a lot of references to things that aren't "perfect" and areas that could (and should) be "improved", in addition to comparing her to other women who actually do meet these standards, and hence are more worthy. Why is this OK? 

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10 Things You Think And Do When You're Drunk

After a very drunken night out with my housemates, I decided to compile a list of things people do when they're drunk. I hope y'all recognize yourselves in at least a few of these!

1. You call/message someone you shouldn't.

We've all done this. Typically it's an ex or someone you've slept with. If you have a smartphone, there's apparently an app you can download that prevents you from contacting certain people for a pre-selected amount of hours. It can't be undone, so you have to wait the full amount of time you set. Very handy!

"WHAT DO YOU NEED? A SIGN!? Oh, there's one."

2. You try to have sex with everyone.

OK, so maybe you're not really trying, but the way you behave definitely makes people think sex is on the table. Or with the table. Who cares, really?

"I don't care if it's on stage or on the floor, I'm having sex!"

3. You think you're much more attractive than you actually are.

Insecurities? What's that? Modesty? Who needs it! You are obviously the hottest person in the room, and anyone getting attention from you should feel lucky, no honoured by it. As if your perceived attractiveness isn't enough - you think that by being drunk, you become more attractive. Want to talk to that boy/girl? Better have another drink first!

"She wants me."

4. You think you're rich.

"Strip clubs and dollar bills. I still got mo' money. Patrone shots, can I get a refill? I still got mo' money. Strippers goin' up and down that pole. I still got mo' money. Four o'clock and we ain't goin' home. I still got mo money." Then you wake up the next day, all of the money you got from the ATM is spent, you kind of remember using your credit/debit card a lot, and reality hits: you, kind sir, are fucked. Lovely day for a loan, isn't it?

"I'll pay. Of course I can afford it!"

5. You think you can sing.

The list of talents that seemingly improve is very long. Topping the list, however, is singing. When you're drunk, you turn into Mariah Carey or Josh Groban, and you can sing anything and everything. What's that note? A5? Nailed it. Because of this, you obviously feel the need to share your gift with friends and strangers alike, and therefore you have to sing karaoke, and not just once. Oh no, you have to sing repeatedly, and if anyone else dares to take the spotlight, they're going to have to share it with you, because you're not giving up that microphone, no sir.

What a lovely sentiment, Mariah. This is obviously before she was a judge on American Idol and spent every waking moment wishing that somebody would have discouraged 98% of the people auditioning.

6 You think you can dance.

Have you ever observed the dance floor of a club, sober? If you have, I guarantee you'll never dance drunk again. It is the most ridiculous sight! You think you're being all high tempo, fast and amazing, but in reality everyone (including you) are doing zombie-slow movements and looking high. Unless of course, like some people, you like to get up on stage and just jump around until security physically removes you.

"I can do the Single Ladies dance!" *does it... badly* (Friends of mine remember that Sunday morning with fondness)

7. You love your enemies.

Why is it that when you're drunk, EVERYONE becomes your friend, even people you normally can't stand. You're not just being polite either - you're in each other's arms, singing praise to each other's character, and agreeing that you should hang out tomorrow and go party together soon. The next day, you're walking around your house chanting "don't call me, don't call me, don't call me". Luckily, the other person is usually doing the same thing.

"Frenemies are enemies who act like friends"

8. You lower your standards (beer goggles).

You're at a party, there are no hotties around, (especially nobody as hot as you, since you've had all of those drinks). A few more shots and: "Uh, look at that hunk of a man standing over there looking mighty fine. Well, maybe not mighty fine, but definitely attractive. OK, so not exactly attractive, but he's got potential. OK, so not really potential, but I mean, like.. OK, he'll do."

This just about sums it up.

9. (Guys) You think you're actually a better driver when you're drunk.

I cannot count the amount of times I've heard male friends of mine swear on everyone they love, that they're actually better drivers when they're drunk. No need to take them home - they'll just drive themselves! No problem! Sure it might be illegal, but who's going to find out? In fact, they are such amazing drivers when they're drunk, the only way the police would stop them would be to commend them on their amazing (drunk) driving skills, never realizing they were actually drunk. I usually tell them that if they go I'm calling the police - and they know I will.

"Like a glove!"

10. (Girls) You think you can take on big, strong men.

This is very true for me. I'm very much a feminist, I'm 5"9, and I'm not a sissy. I am, however, female, and as much as I like to fight it when I'm drunk, men who are taller and heavier than me, are also stronger than me. When I'm drunk, this doesn't stop me! Why should it? I'm Xena! To be fair, I once knocked a guy to the ground with one hit because he was being a little bitch. Couldn't take any more of it. I did warn him. And no, I wouldn't have complained about not hitting women if he'd hit me back. Luckily for me, he didn't get back up (he was drunk). I don't like violence guys! I'm not a violent person at all, and I don't make a habit of hitting people, but he was just being such a cunt.

Instant replay.

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When Is Rape OK?

Victim blaming is an unfortunately common practice among many people. It's the act of removing responsibility from the perpetrator and blaming the victim for the crime that was committed against them, for example telling a victim of rape that she was acting in a sexually provocative way, and therefore put herself into that position. Many different things are commonly used in defense of the rapist, like what a woman is wearing, how she talks, how she acts, where she walks, if she's alone etc. and I will address many of them in just a second, but before I do let me make one thing very clear: the answer to the headlining question "When is rape OK" is NEVER.

"Rape is never OK!"

"Well did you see what she was wearing? No wonder she got raped!"

Sometimes I wonder if people are actually this dumb, or if they're just.. no, they are actually this dumb. I'll put this very simply: wearing a short anything doesn't initiate rape, doesn't invite rape, and doesn't cause rape. People that rape cause rape, and they will rape regardless of what anyone wears. If a woman was to walk down the street naked for that matter, it would not excuse rape. If you think so, you should probably get your head examined - you might be a rapist.

Rihanna, just standing there casually, asking to be raped. "Sticks and stones may break my bones, I just want you to rape meeeee" is how the song goes, I believe.

"She walked where alone? Well that's just asking for it!"

Walking through dangerous neighborhoods is asking for it? While I agree that nobody should walk on their own at night because of the many bad individuals in the world, it still doesn't excuse the crime they commit, nor does it alleviate relocate any of the responsibility onto the victim. Also, many people LIVE in dangerous, so-called "high risk" places, and don't have the means to move. Not everyone is born into a privileged life. Many rape victims are victims of war, and have been raped by soldiers. Should they just "stay out of the war zone" when the war is being brought to them? Are they asking for it by living there? If you think so, you should probably get your head examined - you might be a rapist.

"Have you heard the way she talks? No wonder men don't respect her - it was only a matter of time before someone took it the wrong way."

Some people insist talking openly about sex provokes rape. I fail to see how it does this. You are at liberty to talk about your sex life and not be ashamed of it. Why does this make you anything other than a normal human being? I'm very open about most things in my life, that doesn't mean I want people to rape me. If you think so, you should probably get your head examined - you might be a rapist.

"Did you see how drunk she was? It's her own fault."

Really? Women can't get drunk now without having to be constantly vigilant in case some guy thinks it's OK to rape us because we're drunk? Is it also our fault if he uses a date rape drug because we didn't monitor the drink he gave us, and therefore indirectly caused our own rape - if we really didn't want to get raped, we'd have noticed the pill being slipped into our drink. Perhaps we would have noticed, had we not been so drunk, in which case it's still our fault, right? If you think so, you should probably get your head examined - you might be a rapist.

Sexually exciting, isn't she? If this doesn't get you off, I don't know what will.

Quite frankly, I find it disturbing how effectively many people can find excuses for rape. Is it to ease their own conscience, to erase a bad memory, or have they perhaps just lived such a protected life that they have no ability to imagine a troubled existence? It is very typical of people with a peachy background to have "all the answers", but based on what? They have no life experience!

Some people claim rapists are "sociopaths." First of all, just by using the word "sociopath", I know that you do not possess the credentials to make that statement. Second of all, you are wrong. Anti social personality disorder, or "psychopathy", is very, very, very rare. Rape, alarmingly, is not. Rape is (dare I say it) disturbingly "common". Also, the violent "side effects" of having anti social personality disorder rarely stop at rape.

There is an online "movement" of a sort, with an increasing number of people proposing that we teach youngsters something as simple as "don't rape". Many scoff at this idea, and brush it off as stupid, but is it really? Isn't it only natural to teach this to youngsters? It shouldn't be just rape specific, but to respect other people's boundaries in general. I know many of you consider that a given, but many people really don't, and even more aren't aware that they don't. As an example, a friend of mine knocked a guy out who kept grabbing her in "personal places". People freaked on her for "over reacting" and she was known as this "strict bitch" by many guys for a long time afterwards. This because she hit a guy, who she had repeatedly warned to stop touching her in inappropriate places. He was a complete stranger, as well. That may not have been rape, but he couldn't understand that "don't touch me" means "don't touch me" or if he did, he didn't respect it. I'm sure that many others have had similar experiences with someone not understanding what "no, you cannot touch me" means.

If you think a woman is "asking for it" because she's drunk, wearing a skimpy outfit, and talks sexually, you serve as a prime example for why it's a good idea to teach youngsters not to rape, simple as it may sound. Also, you should get your head examined - you're probably a rapist.

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"The Gaping Holes of Modern Science"

When you talk to, ahem, "spiritual people" they often defend their spirituality by mentioning the "gaping holes of modern science" and saying that there's just "so much we don't know". While not completely false (there are things we don't know), here's why I'm not impressed by these statements:

1. They're vague.

2. They suggest that since we don't know everything, it's perfectly acceptable to believe in sky wizards and magic.

3. They are typically used about the wrong things.

If you're a person living in a tribe and have no concept of science, I can understand believing in magic and demons. If you're an educated person, or someone with access to the Internet, there is no excuse. No, we do not know everything, but how "I don't know the answer to this" naturally progresses to "Hm, must have been an invisible sky wizard" to some people, is something I will never be able to understand. Every day we have the potential to be smarter! Never has knowledge been so readily available as it is now. The Internet has opened whole new doors, but for some reason the door of stupidity and ignorance remains open. Tribal people with no concept of science, no books, no Internet access etc. are not by any means "stupid". They just lack knowledge. Stupidity is not the same as the lack of knowledge; stupidity is what happens when you have the knowledge but refuse to utilize it. When you are informed but choose to ignore. When you decide you want to remain plugged in to the Matrix because to you the illusion is more comfortable than reality.

Pssssst. Hint: take the red pill!

Never is this more apparent than when you talk to people about evolution. Many people like to talk about all of the "holes" in the theory of evolution, and love to point out that "it's just a theory". Let me start out by saying that if you're one of the people that does that: stop. It's really embarrassing to listen to, and you're only making a fool of yourself. Also, allow me to point out something: evolution is real. It's happening all around us, all the time. How do you think bacteria get resistant to antibiotics? They change and adapt - they evolve. Now, on to evolution as a theory. (Note: I am not an expert by any means. My knowledge of the subject is very limited. When I think of it, that's actually the scary part! I feel like I am so limited in my knowledge, but apparently even that is much more than the average Joe or Jane. Also, there is a big difference between scientific theories and your every day theories. Google it!) The theory of evolution is not some lackluster, easily debunked piece of child's play: it is one of the most solid theories of modern science, and it's supported by a wealth of evidence. If you bothered to read just a single journal article on the subject, you would know this! 

This picture made me laugh.

On the subject of "gaping holes" (I know you get pornographic images in your mind every time your read that): exactly what "gaping holes" of modern science are we talking about? I'm sure there are some, but if you're going to use this as an excuse for believing in fairies and unicorns (or gods), I would like to know exactly what they are. I'm curious as to what lack of knowledge could possibly excuse adults having imaginary friends.

What the kid said!

On Facebook, I saw someone use this in a discussion about how faulty science is: "They used to think the world was flat". This is a terrible argument! People have hypothesized that the world is round since at least the 3rd of 4th century BC. The person then went on to talk about "inner truth" or your "personal truth" or something. Let me tell you one thing: there is no "your truth". There is only truth, and then lies you tell yourself. Let's all make an effort to live in the real world, shall we?

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